I am currently working my way through Dr. Richard Weissbourd’s book, The Parents We Mean to Be. (Dr. Weissbourd is a psychologist and faculty member at the Harvard Graduate School of Education.)
I encourage you to read the book, but, in our busy world, I realize that a parenting guide may not be on your agenda. Luckily, Dr. Weissbourd, offers a one page strategy guide for parents (and all adults) that you can read in less than ten minutes.
As we start the school year, I wanted to highlight two of the strategies.
Strategy One: “Instead of telling your children, ‘The most important thing is that you are happy,’ tell them, ‘The most important thing is that you are kind, and that you are responsible for others.’”
My thoughts: Your child is going to have the occasional bad day. What if your child’s focus is helping another person have a good day? This one is simple, the Golden Rule.
Strategy Five: “While it's important to help children understand and articulate their feelings, be wary of pointing out children's feelings too frequently or drawing a lot of attention to passing emotional states. Doing these things can cause children to dramatize their feelings, and to make their own feelings too precious.”
My thoughts: I encourage you to listen, but please wait before taking action or rushing to solve your child’s problems. Everything is a not a big deal. I also am partial to the classic childhood rhyme—“You get what you get, and you don’t throw a fit.” And, if your child does throw a fit, see if your child can solve the issue on his or her own.
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